Friday, January 05, 2007

why I believe in honesty

Why I believe in honesty has nothing to do with the fact that I believe in fairness.

And perhaps, I am an eternal optimist.

I believe that every person deserves the truth. That every person has the right to know why things are happening to them.

A friend bails out of a friendship for no reason what so ever. Maybe they just out grew each other. Perhaps it has something to do with the other person, but for the hell of it, don't you think the other person has the right to know?

A significant (or insignificant) other decides that they need out. Maybe they fell in love with someone else. Maybe the other person has weird habits (like drinking 3 beers like water or quotes too many movies), but come on, be the bigger person and tell them why you really want out.

Trust me, they can handle it.

Having an honest conversation does not always lead to being alone. What it does lead to is a place where someone can sleep at night because they know the real reasons why a friend, a significant other, a business partner has left the relationship.

So, why are we fearful to have those honest conversations? Because we can't control what the other person will say or do in the moment. And a lack of control always, always freaks people out.

Try it...try for once in your life to be honest...see what can happen...cause I'm sick and tired of dealing with people who refuse to be honest.

1 comment:

Ms. Warren said...

Thanks for posting this - I love it - it's so true. I think people avoid telling the truth out of fear of confrontation, fear they'll hurt them, but more out of selfishness, we don't want to be the bad guy, ever. What they don't realize is that truth sets people free, gives them closure and can actually protect people from being hurt more than hurt them. And seriously, you just need to be the bigger person and suck it up. While I've done the occassional not call back, somehow it never feels as good as just being honest - so I hope I continue to do that - thanks for the encouragement and others really take to your blog.
love and miss you. PS - this blog proves even further, why we are friends forever - we've always been willing to tell the truth to one another, even when it hurts.