Wednesday, October 27, 2010

According to Bell Biv Devoe, I should not be trusted

Recently, Marie Claire gave the okay to publish a blog entitled "Should fatties get a room?". The author mentioned that watching 2 overweight people kiss gives her the shivers and that they should not find love or for that matter, make love.

I won't lie and most of my readers know this about me anyways. I have struggled with my weight since I was in middle school. I have never been skinny. And living in a part of Kansas City where perfection was expected was hard. I lived in a real Beverly Hills, 90120. My clothing has always been in the double digits. My lowest weight wasn't due to healthy eating and exercise. It was due to being on fen-phen. I eat when I am sad, when I am lonely, when I am upset. I know that I am an emotional eater. I also know that I love a good cheeseburger.

It was last year, when in the midst of losing my job and gaining about 15 pounds that I finally started to give myself grace. I liked myself. I have curves, some of them good, some of them bad, some of them very good. And it took one comment from someone I love to take that all away. All the forward progression I had made was now in one giant leap backwards because I wasn't thin enough for their expectations.

People like the author of the Marie Claire article think that they can get away with bullying. That these are just sentences in a blog that no one will really pay attention to. Unfortunately for Ms. Kelly, she is now in heated waters over bullying a majority of the population. She's probably right in her "apology" that she wrote this piece out of a place of hatred that she towards her own body. However, while a society continues to deem that you be "perfect" and "skinny", her article only continues to fuel the fire of poor self-image amongst our population.

Take it from me. I know what it's like to have a poor self-image. I'm working on it. One day I'll actually like myself. Until then, I focus on the few things I do like about myself. It's a long, hard road, and eventually, I'll get there.


John said...

As somebody who has struggled with his weight so much that he actively avoids scales, I know your plight.

Let me simply say, there is nothing sexier than smart, funny, and confident. said...

I'm sure Marie Claire published that article as a means of stirring up some controversy and to get some attention, but it certainly was in bad taste.

The good news, in terms of retributive justice, is that everyone the author knows is going to point out every little flaw she has. We'll see how she likes it.

In other news, I now have a mean hankering for a cheeseburger.

Jordan Reed said...

Well said, Meg! I love you, friend, and I would love to celebrate burgers, beers, and other deliciousness with you anytime.

Kacee said...

Nice blog- love you!

Smittenkitten01 said...

I also struggle with my weight, it has taken a long time for me to come to terms with my body. For me to like who I am, inside and out.

I just recently start running, but for noone other than myself. If it changes my body, fantastic. If not, I'm not worried.

And trust me... even being "fat" I get plenty of action! ;) That was an exteremly hurtful blog by someone who doesnt like herself very much.

You're beautiful inside and out. That woman has the heart of grinch!